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Part 2 – Goal Setting – Answering the “Why” question

Tuesday, January 18th, 2011

In my last blog, I covered the first step to goal setting with the concept of “painting the picture”.  Once you’ve identified your goal and specifically defined it, the next step involves asking why this goal is important to you.  This is one of the most important steps in the entire process, because once you know why you are doing something, you will do whatever it takes to figure out how to accomplish it.  Answering the why question is essential to defining the importance of the particular goal.

If I have a goal of eating healthy and exercising on a regular basis, then I have to know why this goal is important.  Am I setting this goal, because I somehow think it’s what I’m supposed to do?  I might say to myself, “I guess I should be healthy.  Everyone lists that as important, so I guess it should be important to me as well.”  That answer is not an effective “why” answer.

Instead, you need to really define why this goal is so important.  I’ll give you an example.  Health is an important goal for me.  Unfortunately my family struggles with high cholesterol and high blood pressure.  I’ve had several family members suffer from heart attacks at very young ages.

My health is directly tied to my family.  I want to be healthy because I want to live to see my children grow up and have children of their own.  I not only want to be alive, but I want to enjoy it.  I don’t want to be confined to a hospital bed or medical equipment.  I also want to have more energy in my life now.  I have a lot of worthy goals that I’m excited about pursuing, but I can’t do that if I have limited energy and I’m out of shape.

Do you see how I’ve answered the why question?  I’ve given very specific reasons that are important to me.  Answering the why question is one of the greatest secrets to accomplishing great goals. You may have practiced this principle in your own life without even realizing it.

Many years ago, my uncle was in terrible shape.  He ate terrible foods, never exercised, smoked, drank, and he rarely saw the doctor.    In his early 40’s, he had a massive heart attack.  Fortunately he survived, but his life was changed forever.

Once he recovered and was out of the hospital, my uncle was a changed man.  He changed his entire diet.  He started exercising every day.  He quit smoking and drinking, and he never missed regular check-ups with his doctor.  He lost an enormous amount of weight.  He looked great, and you would have never guessed he was so out of shape a few years before.

So what happened to my uncle?  I’ll break it down for you.  He answered the why question.  His goal was to get healthy, but the key to his success was that he knew why.  Once you know why, you’ll do everything you can to figure out how.  Do you see the power of this principle?  Answer the why question, and you’ve got 80% of the goal setting process accomplished to do great things.

Learn Several Powerful Strategies to Goal Setting (Part 1)

Wednesday, December 8th, 2010

Goal setting can be an invaluable exercise that can literally revolutionize your life for the good.  Most of the great entrepreneurs who have accomplished amazing things have been extremely effective at setting goals.  While goal setting is important, it’s effectiveness can increase exponentially if you practice the steps that I will be outlining in the next several blog posts.  You are about to learn several of the great secrets to effective goal setting.

The first step in the goal setting process is getting specific.  It is imperative that you specifically define what your goal is.  Generic goals are ineffective, because they fail to identify what you are really trying to accomplish.  For example, you might have a goal to be healthy.  If that is as specific as you get, then you really haven’t defined it.  What does healthy mean, especially to you?  A better goal would be, “I am going to increase my health by lowering my blood pressure and cholesterol to xyz levels, and I am going to lose 15 pounds.  You might have a goal to become rich.  Again, this is a very generic goal.  Instead, you could have the following goal, “I will become debt free by paying off my house, car, credit card balance and student loan”.

The specifics outline exactly what you are talking about, and this step forces you to really think about what you want to achieve.

Once you’ve specifically outlined the goal, then you need to burn the image of that goal into your brain by using the strategy of “painting the picture”.  Most people are visual, and it’s amazing how powerful a picture can be.  Imagine you are planning a vacation to Hawaii, and you are trying to select which resort you will stay at.  Would you rather have a written description of the resort or pictures?  While the description is very important to identify the amenities, etc., the pictures are what move you emotionally.

You need to visualize exactly what accomplishing your goal would mean to you.  It’s critical to see it in your mind as if it has already been achieved.  Meditate for a moment on the completion of the goal.  What does it feel like?  Can you see it?  Can you taste it?  Imagine the rush of accomplishing this goal.  Now find a picture that represents the goal.  It can be something cut from a magazine or a picture that you have taken.  This picture should instantly take your mind to the place of accomplishment.  If you have a goal to spend better quality time with your children, then you might consider using a picture of you playing with your children.

Finally, you need to place your picture and goal in a place that you will see it every day.  The daily reminder and visual impact of the goal will keep your focus on the task at hand.  Many people will set goals and then quickly forget in the busyness of their lives.  Painting the picture by itself is not enough.  You have to look at that picture on a daily basis, so that you start internalize the value and importance of the goal.  In the process of reviewing and visualizing your goal, you will start to focus.  Focus is the secret ingredient that actualizes the efficacy of the goal setting process.  As you continually focus on the goal at hand, your mind will commence a process of determining how to achieve it.  In the next blog, we will cover the next essential step – answering the why question, and you will be further equipped to go out and do great things.

Learn the secret to asking powerful questions

Saturday, November 13th, 2010

The questions that you ask yourself on a regular basis can have a profound effect on you.  You are always asking yourself questions, whether you know it or not.  In every situation, your brain is using questions to evaluate what’s happening.  Think about this for a moment and see if it is true.  If you are in a dangerous situation, what are you saying to yourself?  Am I going to be alright?  Should I run?  Should I fight?  What’s going to happen next?

As we ask ourselves questions, our brain operates like a super human computer designed to deliver an answer.  God provided us with this mechanism, and it is the means for how we evaluate things.

We use questions to evaluate situations and circumstances.  The problem is when we start asking ourselves bad questions that inflict damage instead of empowering us.

You might be asking yourself questions like the following:

-Why do I always screw everything up?

-Why do people hate me?

-Why am I so stupid?

-Why can’t I be successful?

As you ask yourself these disempowering questions, your brain is programmed to deliver answers.  Of course you will not receive very empowering answers when you are asking questions like the ones above.  If you ask the wrong question, you get the wrong answer.  Many of these limiting questions carry an implied meaning in the very nature of the question itself.

For example, “why do people hate me?” presupposes that people hate you.  You have already assumed that people hate you.   You are now simply asking why that is the case.  That’s a terrible question to ask.  Your brain may provide an answer that’s damaging, because it’s presupposing that people hate you and there must be a reason for it.

I challenge you to start asking empowering questions.  If you ask yourself the right question, your brain will go to work and provide an answer.  A powerful, creative question will yield a powerful, creative answer.

For example, instead of asking why people hate you, you could ask the following questions:

-What things could I be doing to make new friends?

-What can I do to be a better friend?

-How can I become a person that attracts good friends?

Think about those questions for a moment.  Do you see the difference?  These questions have the potential to empower you and put your mind in a position to provide an answer that gives you real options.  Your brain will go to work and it will provide answers that you never thought possible.

Take a moment and list three questions that you are asking yourself right now that are disempowering.  Once you list those questions, I want you to determine how those questions are affecting you?  How are they limiting you?  How are they damaging you?

Now I would like you to create three questions that will empower you.  Once you create these questions, I want you to start asking yourself these questions every day.

Below are some examples of great questions that you could be asking yourself:

-How can I build my relationship with God in a way that is exciting and fresh?

-What can I do to become a better husband/wife/father/mother/friend?

-What can I do to get into shape and also have fun at the same time?

-What things could I be doing to be a more effective employee/manager/boss/entrepreneur?

-What things could I start doing to enjoy the process of learning?

-How could I change my life to become more disciplined and hard-working while still being   spontaneous and exciting?

Now it’s your turn.  Start creating amazing and powerful questions that you can ask yourself.  Remember that the more creative questions will yield the most creative results. I have personally found this process to be surprising.  My mind has generated some amazing responses to some well-designed questions.  I use this process on a regular basis in my businesses.  As an entrepreneur, you have to create options and solutions that are outside the box of conventional thinking.  Why not use this same approach in your personal life?  It will create an environment for you to do great things.

Learn one of the best kept secrets to success – delayed gratification

Saturday, October 30th, 2010

One common thread among great entrepreneurs and successful people is the idea of delayed gratification.  Delayed gratification means that you are willing to make a sacrifice now for something great in the future.  Unfortunately in today’s “fast food” society, we want everything now, not later.  As a result, future opportunities are short circuited and squandered away.

The best example of delayed gratification is revealed in a study known as The Stanford Marshmallow Study”.  Michael Mischel, a Stanford psychology researcher, performed a study that began in the 1960s with four year olds and marshmallows.  Four year old children were given one marshmallow.  Did I mention that these children were also very hungry?  The children were given two options.  They could eat the one marshmallow now or if they waited for 15 or so minutes until the researcher returned, they could have a second marshmallow only if they did not eat the first one.

This study revealed some very interesting results.  About one-third of the children devoured the marshmallow as soon as the researcher left the room.  Other children were able to wait a little longer before succumbing to the pressure.  The remaining one-third of the children waited 15 minutes or longer until the researcher returned without eating their one marshmallow.  The longer term results of this study are very telling.

The children that were able to view the longer term gain of two marshmallows while enduring the immediate pain of not eating the one marshmallow in front of them in the heat of the moment went on to experience a greater amount of success in their lives.

After the children graduated high school, the group that waited for the second marshmallow was more positive, self-motivating, and persistent in the face of trials and so on.  These children had the habits of successful people and those habits translated into better health, higher salaries, and better marriages.

Which group do you fall into right now?  If you are currently devouring your marshmallows the second they hit your plate, there’s good news.  You have the ability to alter your approach in this area of your life, but it involves sacrifice.  Sacrifice is a word that makes most people cringe, but I promise you that with great sacrifice, there is great reward.

Take a few minutes and identify two areas in your life where you lack discipline, and then ask yourself what needs to change.  Are you spending more money than you make right now?  Are you watching television in the evenings instead of spending quality time with your spouse or children?  Are you not giving your employer or business everything you’ve got when you’re at work?  Are you spending time reading the bible and praying?  Is the treadmill getting lonely at your house?  Think about it for a moment.  Once you identify those two areas that need to change, then go and do it.  Don’t worry about making big changes at first.  Start small and build incrementally.

The great entrepreneurs almost always delay present benefits for a future benefit by committing to hard work now.  Learn from them, and apply this principle in your own life.  Take action today.  Delay gratification.  Procrastinate on another day.  Step up and make it happen.  You will position yourself to do great things in the future, and the gratification will eventually come.  Trust me.

The Beginning of Great Things

Friday, October 22nd, 2010

I’ve always wondered what it would be like to do “great things”.  I’ve watched countless history channel specials and biography broadcasts of famous people in history who have done what the world generally considers as “great things”.  I’ve always admired the great founding fathers of the United States like George Washington, Benjamin Franklin, Thomas Jefferson, Alexander Hamilton, James Madison, John Adams, etc.  I’m amazed at the incredible accomplishments of these great leaders in addition to the countless others who fought for and established the great nation of the United States.

I am also inspired by the great accomplishments of the people who have changed our world with their intelligence, talent, bravery, leadership, sacrifice, hard work, wisdom and resolve.  I think of Mother Teresa, Thomas Edison, Albert Einstein, Harriet Tubman, Neil Armstrong, Elvis Presley, Warren Buffett, Billy Graham, Babe Ruth, Sir Isaac Newton, Winston Churchill, Charles Lindbergh, Helen Keller, Martin Luther, Martin Luther King, Jr., Henry Ford, etc.  How’s that for a list of amazing people?

Why are we so intrigued and obsessed with those who have done great things?  What is it about these amazing accomplishments that we find so fascinating?  Perhaps there is a desire in each one of us that longs for greatness, something deep within our soul.

Have you ever considered your own capacity for great things?  Do you believe you have the potential, ability and will to capitalize on life’s opportunities in order to fulfill your purpose?

Let me ask you another question…  If you could go do whatever your heart was designed to do with complete fulfillment, excitement, passion and adventure without the possibility of failing, would you do it?  If your answer is yes, but the concept is not reality in your life, then it’s time rethink some things.

The culture today has twisted the definition of great things.  The world says great things have more to do with fame, fortune, self-gratification, accumulation of things, power and popularity.  Although fame and fortune and power are not inherently bad, they are completely irrelevant to authentic great things.  In many cases, they are simply distractions to what’s really important.

Today I challenge you answer this one question.  If there was one thing that you could do consistently well that would have the greatest impact on your life, what would it be?  Ponder that question for a while and then answer it.

Once you’ve answered the question, make it your goal this week to put it into practice.  You will be starting down the pathway to great things.

AaronBroyles.com Launches

Sunday, September 12th, 2010

Aaron Broyles’ new site – www.aaronbroyles.com launches in support of the new book coming in the Spring of 2011 – Do Great Things:  Applying Proven Entrepreneurial Methods to Achieve Success in Every Day Life!